LOVE noun \ˈləv\
: unselfish, loyal, unconditional affection and concern for the good of another
Whether you are someone who is currently in the most perfect, romantic relationship you could ever imagine, or you are someone who is currently wanting to passive aggressively egg the house of the person who is in the most perfect, romantic relationship you could ever imagine, Valentine’s Day is a great day for you.
I know most of you skeptics are probably reading the above like “lol gurl r u for real” And to that I say, “ya haha pls keep reading”.
To all of the love birds out there who spoon feed each other delicate bites of chocolate cake that you probably buy for dessert at a fancy restaurant while wearing fancy clothes and enjoying every millisecond of each others fanciness, I am happy that you (as the British would say) have found someone that you “fancy”. And I hope that you forever appreciate and never underestimate how special it is that you have found someone who feeds you cake and fills your soul with such delight.
And while I truly do want you to keep reading– because this post marks the grand opening of my blog and if this was actually a restaurant and you were my customer asking if I have mac and cheese bites, I would be like “Yes, of course! One moment!”And then I would smile as I calmly walked through the doors to the back kitchen where I would then break into a frazzled sprint to the grocery store to buy them for you bc in actuality I didn’t have mac and cheese bites at my restaurant but this is the grand opening, so I aim to impress each and every customer- I regretfully must mention, however, this article is not about romance.
This article is for my single ladies. My single fellas. My single people out there who are feverishly trying to book a last minute Airbnb for this coming Valentine’s Day to stay on a remote island with the intention of soaking up their loneliness like the pink sponge Beauty Blender trending on Twitter that no one can properly identify.
Yup. This one’s for you. Stop searching for an escape from Valentine’s Day, and instead…embrace the beauty of it.
We live in a society where we are constantly trying to find love, fall in love, or fake like we aren’t trying to do either.
We watch the bachelor and we’re like “WOW, three roses, two helicopter dates, and one hometown visit later and they’re engaged. Love is so easy for them. I must be a hermit who is doomed to forever repel love!!!” Whoever is reading this (bless u, I appreciate u for your readership) just know that you are not a hermit who repels love : )
Valentine’s Day is one of the most important days of the year. It’s a day with the sole intention of this: celebrating love. Love in all shapes and sizes. It’s a day to remember that we have been entrusted with the most incredible gift in the world- the power to love others. What a beautiful thing it is that we have the ability to give and to receive love. And that every person- from the boy who sits behind you in math class to the elderly man at the coffee shop to the girl on the elliptical- is so worth loving. YOU are so worth loving.
I will repeat this for emphasis just as I would if this were a dramatic monologue. YOU are so worth loving. If no one happens to tell you that today, then make sure you tell it to yourself because sometimes that’s exactly what you need.
Valentine’s Day should not be a time for us to dwell upon all of the love that we lack. But instead, a time for us to appreciate all of the love that we have.
If you are someone who has chosen to be overly guarded when it comes to giving love to others, I hope that on this upcoming holiday, you will choose to love freely, openly, and unapologetically.
Sometimes, I think we hold back from showing love to others because we are afraid that either they A. won’t accept it, B. won’t return it, C. won’t understand it, or D. won’t appreciate it. We aren’t perfect people, so…any of those could happen. But, for every one person that doesn’t reciprocate your love, whether that be a friend, a relative, a coworker, a mailman (I don’t know ur life), or a former partner, there are thousands more who will significantly touch your heart throughout your lifetime. Learn to love generously, understanding with unshakeable certainty that “it is far better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all”.
Instead of worrying about finding the perfect relationship, take time to appreciate your existing relationships. Because if we get stuck on wishing for “what if” and “what should be” and “what could be”, we will miss out on what is. Do you remember those stock wallpapers from the early desktop computer days that had radiant images with quotes like “in the garden of life, friends are like flowers blooming in the radiant summer breeze”?? (or something) WELL, let’s make like an ’03 stock wallpaper and remember to water our current relationships because if we neglect them then they will become dried up flowers that, somewhere out there, a nice grandma will use to make potpourri, and even though that smells fantastic, the point is that it’s no longer a blooming garden of friendships. It’s just a bowl of dried-up florals. Love the relationships you are in. Invest in those who invest in you.
Question: What is love?
4 year old girl that I babysit: “Mommy”
45 year old woman at hair salon: “Getting up every morning feeling blessed and at peace with those in my life”
Elderly man at Starbucks: “Love is…anyone and anything that is loved by her” *he points at his wife sitting at table and I sob*
Boy in my music class: “Being with someone who makes me want to be better”
Elderly woman at nursing home: “The way I feel about my family”
5 year old boy that I babysit: “Dinosaur nuggets”
Despite what social media may tell you, Valentine’s Day is not just a time for couples to buy their significant others expensive gifts or for single people to cry and joke about living with cats forever and eat entire pints of ice cream. (However, should we all still eat pints of ice cream you ask?? Yes, absolutely we should it’s superb why did you even ask that).
Valentine’s Day means that for 24 consecutive hours, we get to celebrate the amazing truth that love is the strongest, most beautiful way that we can impact the world for the better.
As we approach this holiday season, remember that no matter what kind of day your heart is having, I guarantee there is someone who loves you. And more importantly, there are so many someones that you get the chance to love, too.
Here are some ways that you can share your love on Valentine’s Day 2017:
1. Write handwritten love letters to those who matter most in your life.
2. Visit your local nursing home, homeless shelter, or hospital and spend time getting to know someone who may need extra love in his/her life.
3. Deliver anonymous roses with uplifting messages on them to strangers’ houses.
4. Volunteer at an animal shelter.
5. Write a thank-you letter to a solider who is helping to keep our country a place where you can freely love others.
In the name of love,
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”- 1 Corinthians 13:4-7